i chanced upon this write up regarding karaoke bars.
" We call them karaoke bars, or KTV’s, but they’re not karaokes and they’re not bars. There are no bars in Cebu. There are establishments euphemestically called "bars" but there is not a single establishment with a long counter where customers can sit around and complain to the bartender about their bosses. A real karaoke joint is where you can take your mom, and is called a "family KTV. What they are is Asian-style girlie clubs, known as gentlemen’s clubs in the US, where customers get to pick a girl – called a Guest Relations Officer – sit with her while drinking, and spend a huge amount of money without ever taking her out. Basically, what it boils down to is that these places are brothels mascarading as respectable establishments."
i have notions of the what abouts in those spots but Not having been inside these "so called" ktvs, that article, and the links provided gave me a very vivid description of what really goes on in such places. the VIP rooms, the expensive ladies drinks and all the unmentionable things that happen inside, and yes sometimes outside the confines of such places. One link even clearly gave out the gory details to what may transpire inside and i was really flabbergasted! I did not even get to read that singing actually even takes place, especially when one choses to have a VIP room. What was highlighted were the icky poos…huh!
when one gets inside these brothels, one may have the option to just ogle at those girls, but some really spend a lot of money to have one or even two of the girls stay with them and flirt. Men go to these places for a reason, you won’t willingly go to one if you have no raison d’être. one may just go there because his friends wanted to go, or he may go there because he himself wants to be there. so when one who is committed goes to these places, what does that make of the current relationship that he is in? Indeed, confusing on how to make of the situation. I remembered some years ago when our other halves (my bf and the bfs of my college berks) got together and went to one of those girly bars, all of my girl-friends except me did not know of the event. (tnx partz for telling me immediately that time) I was not at all mad, primarily because i knew about it, and bcoz i know nothing suspicious would happen, i trusted him that not anything damaging would happen. But you know why most, if not all girls feel bad when their guys go to such places? "insecurities" it would make most girls wonder, why go to such places? am i not pretty enough or eye pleasing enough that the other goes there? and especially when your guy keeps on going to those places, or when you learn that your guy and his pals had a few girls over their table or worst when they actually go out with the girls…they may add up to the insecurities. they may make you feel unconfident about yourself. (with emphasis on the "may" coz it may not to some) It really is baffling how you look into situations such as these…because the person may just go there because most of his buds are going, or some other reason is motivating him to do so. It may just be a no-need-to worry night out, or it may become a prelude to something hurtful.
hahay, i’m even confused on what to write.hehe. it’s that arcane. well, these ktv bars would always be there, and they would always have the girls who are ready to pounce and get some mullah, and guys, yes, even your guy may go there. But i guess it just boils down to trust: to trust and be trustworthy. For girls, to hope that your man would not frequent such places, and to trust that if your man would go to one, that nothing awful would happen. And for the guys, to be trustworthy. Us girls wouldn’t be able to trust enough unless you yourselves can prove that you are trustworthy. So if you can avoid such places, then why not avoid them? or if you will go to one (or have to bcoz of frnz) to at least let the girl know. I really appreciated it when i was informed. Oh well, that’s me. I feel better when i know. I hate being lied at. I hate having things being done behind my back, so i’d rather know. I don’t usually stop wati from doing things, so i expect to be informed. and it makes me trust better. And yes boys, when you go to ktvs, you are inviting temptation, yet you still have the CHOICE to resist or to allow yourself to be tempted, and knowingly hurt the one your with. Remember that trust is like a vase, if it gets broken, it may still be repaired but it will never be the same again.
hehe. la lang. i had so many thoughts running through my mind and emotions racing through my heart when i read the article that i just had to pen them down..and with the number of things i wanted to say, i got even more confused on how to write..hehe..saonz..
mao ra…
i am ur angel... 